A Canadian woman who was raised by a gay father who had multiple partners is speaking against same-sex marriage.
In a commentary piece for The Daily Signal last week, Dawn Stefanowicz, based out of London, Ontario, said it took her “decades” to formulate her views on same-sex marriage – up until her 30s.
She said her dad, an executive recruiter, gave her a “strong business ethic.” Still, he had multiple partners and died of AIDS in 1991. None of his partners, she writes, are alive today.
I was exposed to a lot of expressed sexuality in the home and subcultures. I experienced uncountable losses. Gender was supposed to be boundless; yet, I did not see my father and his partners valuing, loving and affirming women.
My father’s preference for one gender (male) created an inner sense of inequality for me.
The Canadian laments “it is very hard to tell my story,” though she is not alone. Stefanowicz writes that 50 adult children who were raised in “alternative households,” plus ex-spouses with children and parents who decided to leave the gay lifestyle have reached out to her in support of her cause–but few will discuss it publicly.
For many of us adult children of gay parents, we have come to the conclusion that same-sex marriage is more about promoting adults’ ‘desires’ than about safeguarding children’s rights to know and be raised by their biological parents.
Stefanowicz warns that in Canada, if you teach in your household that marriage is between one man and one woman, “you run the risk of thought police questioning your beliefs, especially if your children discuss these subjects in the classroom.”
Consequently, parents experience state interference when it comes to moral values and teachings about family, parenting and sex education in schools.
Also, children are deprived of knowing and being raised by both their biological father and mother since same-sex marriage allows for children to have same-sex parents where at least one parent is unrelated to the child.
The Canadian is not the first to express this point of view in recent weeks. Heather Barwick, formerly an advocate of gay marriage, recently published a letter in which she wished she had a father. Barwick was raised by a lesbian couple.
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